tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post8404381242625338430..comments2024-01-31T11:14:16.764+10:00Comments on Doonan diddly-squat: Moving on (and in)Chartreusehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05919069110736697400noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post-81962389034681468832014-05-18T17:28:55.104+10:002014-05-18T17:28:55.104+10:00I enjoyed reading about your conversion of Allen&#...I enjoyed reading about your conversion of Allen's office to your own needs. He looks like such a nice man in the photo. I was thrilled to see the palm trees in another photos and envied you living where they grow. I live just below the North 45th parallel, yet there are a few palm trees even here where planted. Last winter, it got extremely cold for the area (-10 F), and I can but hope they all survived, but the ones I've seen don't look likely to win the battle.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post-67877170791747316352014-05-16T18:09:56.973+10:002014-05-16T18:09:56.973+10:00Thank you for your comment. I visited your blog bu...Thank you for your comment. I visited your blog but couldn't find anywhere to leave this comment there. I have to tell you that I don't feel our experiences are very similar. I found it difficult to understand your relationship with your mother-in-law. My caregiving was based on a mutual love built up during a long and happy life together. You seem to be acting purely out of a sense of duty toward your husband. Sadly, you don't seem to have had the opportunity to get to know your mother-in-law before her decline. These differences in our circumstances make me think we mightn't have very many feelings in common about our experiences or our attitudes to the person being cared for. Also, my husband very rarely lost his awareness of who I was or what was happening to him. His was a rare form of dementia. He never stopped being my husband and ours was always a partnership, even if it seemed my input was greater than his. I felt too saddened by many of your poems to want to read more. Your mother-in-law is obviously in a lonely and frightening place. I can understand you feel the need to take solace in your writing. But I am afraid I would only be saddened to be constantly reminded of the terrible damage that full-blown dementia can wreak on extended family relationships. I wish you peace and happiness in your family lifeChartreusehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919069110736697400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post-15617748423855961472014-05-15T08:56:50.040+10:002014-05-15T08:56:50.040+10:00It's really good to see you post again. It'...It's really good to see you post again. It's tough to establish a new life on your own. I think men deal poorly with their new status. Enjoy your new office space.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post-72952102088627806662014-05-15T02:13:28.094+10:002014-05-15T02:13:28.094+10:00Hello, Char. Glad to see you back. Going to Unive...Hello, Char. Glad to see you back. Going to University pre-computer made paper hoarders of many of us. Throwing it out can be therapeutic, for sure. Being in his office will keep you close to Allen's memory. Hugs.The Blog Fodderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11441978691701289074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2216131219986318633.post-71499785434113175782014-05-15T00:54:09.498+10:002014-05-15T00:54:09.498+10:00Hi Chartreuse,
I am a fellow caregiver and just c...Hi Chartreuse,<br /><br />I am a fellow caregiver and just came across your blog - sorry to see you are in the same position, but if you are anything like me I hope your website provides some sort of outlet... <br /><br />I have been a young(ish!) carer for my mother-in-law, who suffers from dementia, for the last three years now.<br /><br />I am in the process of creating a new poetry site primarily aimed at carers, but also people with dementia as well - http://dementiapoetry.com.<br /><br />The blog is an honest account of my experience of caring over the last few years in poems - some silly, some exasperated, some happy, some sad - of my last three years caring for my mother-in-law, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, and is aimed at helping to support other caregivers in a similar position.<br /><br />If you would be happy to link to me, I would gladly return the favour!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com